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April 22 The full story, the good the bad and the thoughts in betweenIts strange isn't it, I don't write a blog for six months and then in one month I find loads of things to say!
This blog entry is pure rant so here is the official disclaimer. If you are offended by anything you read call 0800-sarcasm and our customers services team will be on hand to tell you the exact opposite of what you want to hear. This is in essence ladies and gentlemen a Rant, a method by which to vent frustrations and annoyance and should not be taken as anything other than the ramblings of a girl with too much time on her hands.
This whole thing started with A, A is a nice girl, a little scatty but nice, she felt that she was making a fuss about a proposed holiday and in order to prevent people from assuming she was making a fuss for no reason explained her need for the requests she was making. She made reference to a wall post on Person D's wall written by person B. Now It comes to light that apparantely person B had a problem with the comments made by person A but it was not person B who commented on this first it was person C. Person A realised her comments had been taken in the wrong way and tried to make ammends. She offered to drop out of the holiady in order for persons B and C to go witout worry of repeating patterns. Persons B and C pulled out of the holiday and refused to return to the group claiming that person A was the main cause. Given however that person A said they would drop out to rectify this problem this excuse from persons B and C held no weight. Person A contacted person E to talk and work out a way forward and persons A and person E contacted person D who was organising the trip and asked her to fix it. She's good, but not a miracle worker and given person B and C and their determination not to go on the holiday for yet undisclosed reasons she was talking to a brick wall. Person A, D and E decided to go on holiday with persons F, G and H instead.
Person B and person D are now fighting. Now oweing to the fact the initial disagreement was between person A and person C why did B need to get involved and why did person D have to try to fix everything and get dragged into a disagreement that didn't involve her in the first place. It may have been suggested that if person B had read person A's comments before person C had their say then this may have all been dealt with and brushed under the carpet. instead person D suggested it was C's over reaction to A's comments that caused a problem that didn't really need fixing. Person D also may have suggested that person C was persuading person B to drop out and go with her on a seperate holiday for financial or personality reasons, either way with no upstanding reason for B's departure this seemed an appropriate assumption. It may have been wrong but as I said given that C dropped out first and C had confronted A and appeared to have made a mountain out of a molehill what are we supposed to think.
D and B have been friends for years. D tried to explain that she was not having a go at B, but annoyed at C for commenting on something that didn't directly involve her in the first place. Person B insists that person C was just sticking up for her as is to be expected but doesn't person B have a voice, and if person B claims to be independent and not hugely influenced by other people why didn't she express her concerns to person A, who, it should be noted have spent approximately fifteen minutes in each others' company and haven't spoken on facebook directly??!
Person D was annoyed at B for not being honest about her reasons for dropping out in the first place and B is annoyed at D for pushing her to change her mind. If B had been honest in the first place and said exactly what ther reasons were instead of blaming a fictional argument with person A then this disagreement with D would not have been so big. Person D may have pushed person B to give up her real reasons, this may have seemed like support for person A but it wasn't it was an attempt to convince person B that she was wanted on the trip and that facebook is eveil. In the mean time person D asked the group for a show of hands and said "your loss" to all those who didn't want to come anymore. Person C asked "why is it our loss" as though if we were losing out because they weren't joining us anymore. It was disappointing but not the end of the world and when I said this and expressed her annoyance at not being given a proper reason to person C she responded with insults and accusations. Person D was not about to allow C to attack her without consequences and published message with a commentary on the comings and goings of the holiday planning much like this one. In response to this more insults, swearing and accusations from persons B and C. D has not sworn or insulted anybody and was not appreciative of this behaviour from her supposed friends.
Since a confrontation (over FACEBOOK) person B appears to be ignoring person D and avoiding contact with her. Person D wonders (and it is speculation) as to why person B isn't putting her friendship above her pride and isn't apologising for her inability to be open and upfront and why she blames D for everything when it was D who was trying to fix everything that happened before she got involved. Person D suggested that person B could be a better friend and while she understands this takes some contemplation time from person B if B and D were good friends in the first place a little honesty should strenghten a friendship not tear it apart. If B and D were any kind of friends in the first place a few heated words over Facebook would not be allowed to destroy what would appear from the outside to be a solid friendship. So were B and D ever really good friends to begin with if this is all it takes to end it? I want to be friends with person B but if person B doesn't want to be friends with me then I have more self respect than to spend the next few months following her around like a lost puppy, I will walk away.
A large part of the disagreement steams from the fact that I made the argument public and from certain people's point of view presented it as one sided and negative. Now this account of the interactions has the actions of persons A, B, C and D laid out for all to see.
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