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April 22 The full story, the good the bad and the thoughts in betweenIts strange isn't it, I don't write a blog for six months and then in one month I find loads of things to say!
This blog entry is pure rant so here is the official disclaimer. If you are offended by anything you read call 0800-sarcasm and our customers services team will be on hand to tell you the exact opposite of what you want to hear. This is in essence ladies and gentlemen a Rant, a method by which to vent frustrations and annoyance and should not be taken as anything other than the ramblings of a girl with too much time on her hands.
This whole thing started with A, A is a nice girl, a little scatty but nice, she felt that she was making a fuss about a proposed holiday and in order to prevent people from assuming she was making a fuss for no reason explained her need for the requests she was making. She made reference to a wall post on Person D's wall written by person B. Now It comes to light that apparantely person B had a problem with the comments made by person A but it was not person B who commented on this first it was person C. Person A realised her comments had been taken in the wrong way and tried to make ammends. She offered to drop out of the holiady in order for persons B and C to go witout worry of repeating patterns. Persons B and C pulled out of the holiday and refused to return to the group claiming that person A was the main cause. Given however that person A said they would drop out to rectify this problem this excuse from persons B and C held no weight. Person A contacted person E to talk and work out a way forward and persons A and person E contacted person D who was organising the trip and asked her to fix it. She's good, but not a miracle worker and given person B and C and their determination not to go on the holiday for yet undisclosed reasons she was talking to a brick wall. Person A, D and E decided to go on holiday with persons F, G and H instead.
Person B and person D are now fighting. Now oweing to the fact the initial disagreement was between person A and person C why did B need to get involved and why did person D have to try to fix everything and get dragged into a disagreement that didn't involve her in the first place. It may have been suggested that if person B had read person A's comments before person C had their say then this may have all been dealt with and brushed under the carpet. instead person D suggested it was C's over reaction to A's comments that caused a problem that didn't really need fixing. Person D also may have suggested that person C was persuading person B to drop out and go with her on a seperate holiday for financial or personality reasons, either way with no upstanding reason for B's departure this seemed an appropriate assumption. It may have been wrong but as I said given that C dropped out first and C had confronted A and appeared to have made a mountain out of a molehill what are we supposed to think.
D and B have been friends for years. D tried to explain that she was not having a go at B, but annoyed at C for commenting on something that didn't directly involve her in the first place. Person B insists that person C was just sticking up for her as is to be expected but doesn't person B have a voice, and if person B claims to be independent and not hugely influenced by other people why didn't she express her concerns to person A, who, it should be noted have spent approximately fifteen minutes in each others' company and haven't spoken on facebook directly??!
Person D was annoyed at B for not being honest about her reasons for dropping out in the first place and B is annoyed at D for pushing her to change her mind. If B had been honest in the first place and said exactly what ther reasons were instead of blaming a fictional argument with person A then this disagreement with D would not have been so big. Person D may have pushed person B to give up her real reasons, this may have seemed like support for person A but it wasn't it was an attempt to convince person B that she was wanted on the trip and that facebook is eveil. In the mean time person D asked the group for a show of hands and said "your loss" to all those who didn't want to come anymore. Person C asked "why is it our loss" as though if we were losing out because they weren't joining us anymore. It was disappointing but not the end of the world and when I said this and expressed her annoyance at not being given a proper reason to person C she responded with insults and accusations. Person D was not about to allow C to attack her without consequences and published message with a commentary on the comings and goings of the holiday planning much like this one. In response to this more insults, swearing and accusations from persons B and C. D has not sworn or insulted anybody and was not appreciative of this behaviour from her supposed friends.
Since a confrontation (over FACEBOOK) person B appears to be ignoring person D and avoiding contact with her. Person D wonders (and it is speculation) as to why person B isn't putting her friendship above her pride and isn't apologising for her inability to be open and upfront and why she blames D for everything when it was D who was trying to fix everything that happened before she got involved. Person D suggested that person B could be a better friend and while she understands this takes some contemplation time from person B if B and D were good friends in the first place a little honesty should strenghten a friendship not tear it apart. If B and D were any kind of friends in the first place a few heated words over Facebook would not be allowed to destroy what would appear from the outside to be a solid friendship. So were B and D ever really good friends to begin with if this is all it takes to end it? I want to be friends with person B but if person B doesn't want to be friends with me then I have more self respect than to spend the next few months following her around like a lost puppy, I will walk away.
A large part of the disagreement steams from the fact that I made the argument public and from certain people's point of view presented it as one sided and negative. Now this account of the interactions has the actions of persons A, B, C and D laid out for all to see.
April 16 I am rather confused and a little scared!I don't know why it has taken this long for me to figure ths out, but I live in probably the craziest student house imaginable. We don't have all night raves in the shed or anything but some of the things that go on in this house are unbelievable.
I blame the fact i live with boys!
This is my fifth year at Swansea Uni and in that time the majority of people i've lived with have been girls, in fact the same group of girls, it was a calm existence, a few nights out, a few trips to the local drinking establishment, a couple of houseparties but mostly our freetime consisted of watching hollyoaks or the "soap of choice" and reading magazines. It may seem dull to you but it was good, lots of gossip, chatter and frun. This year, this year i chose to live with boys, much to my mum's dismay! Turns out the simplest of things can be turned upsidedown.
There resides in our house a drumkit called Tim and a base called Kiera.
A pink pony named magnito with plaited pink hair.
Our banister is named Brian.
April 14 A lot of fuss over nothingI recieved this message from a 27 year old sister of one of my friends. Im posting it here because i find it unbelievably entertaining!
"Right that's enough now danielle! I don't think u realise who ur messing with! I'v bin calm up until now but u jus can't seem 2 get it thru ur childish little brain that sam has decided not 2 go 2 rome wi u lot coz the atmosphere wud b horrible coz of small mined people like liz. It was not a minor disagreement as u keep putting it! Ur feelings 4 liz r very clear with regard 2 friendship & u can not c passed her side. if u was ne kind of friend u wud not giv sam grief over this. Cut the jealousy act dani!"
I shall start at the beginning, more so for my benefit than yours becasue if i don't i'll lose track of the roller coaster of events and sooner or later will either crash into ground or shoot off into sapce, neither one would be advantageous.
In january somebody, I believe it was Ryan and I came up with a plan to on a short break to Rome. Sam since claims it was her idea but no matter. Sam asked us to go mid August so that we were in Italy for her birthday. It seemed a lovely idea and I was already looking foward to it. I decided not to start formally organising it until after my dissertation was completed (prioritise the accademics for once), im not a patient person and so it got to the middle of March and I couldn't wait anymore. Sam asked me to look into booking things soon so that we could take advantage of cheap flights which made sense.
Liz posted a website for a hostel, it look OK, not the best but cheap and in roughly the right place. For ages there were 8 people on the guestlist and here is where it may get a little tricky:
Me
Theresa
Louise
Liz
Richard
Stephen
Ryan
Sam
I put the event on facebook and asked people to confirm whether they were going or not. At this point Ryan dropped out so the guestlist read
Me
Theresa
Louise
Liz
Richard
Stephen
Sam A nice number of people, everything looked set. Hannah had been invited but at that point had not confirmed and after we had mostly agreed on the hostel decided she did want to go and if possible to bring her sister Ellie so the guest list looked like
Me
Theresa
Louise
Liz
Richard
Stephen
Sam
Hannah
Ellie
Hannah raised some concerns that the hostel was a bit outside Rome and was there the possiblity of staying somewhere closer to the sights, so i started hotel searching again.
Sam asked if her sister Helen could join us as she wouldn't get a vacation this year. we all agreed so the guestlist became
Me
Theresa
Louise
Liz
Richard
Stephen
Sam
Hannah
Ellie
Helen
At this point, over the course of just one week the group were shown seven or eight different hotels all within the £60 - £70 price bracet within 15 minutes of the sights. We also discussed the option of an appartment. It became obvious that pleasing 10 people was going to be difficult, concerns were raised from all directions about the prices, the distance, the facilities, the room organisation, you name it and i'll bet somebody in the group had said it. Finding a hotel was proving problematic.
Sam found us what looked like a perfect compromise 30 minutes out but with good bus / metro links £55 for the three nights with a lift in the hotel and airport transfers. Ideal. It concerned me at this point that Sam said that if the group couldn't decide on a hotel then maybe it would have to split. I mentioned that the hotel was a way away from the centre and may be problematic for Hannah, Ellie and Liz but i felt like Sam had set her mind on this hotel and that given her point about splitting the group this would be the result if we didn't stay in the hotel she had selected. This may or may not have been her intention. We all agreed to stay in this hotel.
At this point i asked for monies!! £110 for flights and hotel deposit to be with me in Swansea by 14th April.
This is where i get confused so bare with me. I suspected that now that monies were due people may begin to have second thoughts and i was right. Helen was the first to raise the "i can't afford it" card, followed by Sam, claiming they had to budget for Donna's hen do. Fair enough but a little disappointing given Sam's earlier enthusiasm and input into the planning process.
While i was away in Cambridge Liz posted a message on my wall, she wrote that people could be ignorant about asthma and she explained why she was making a fuss about distances and lifts so that people didn't just assume she was being difficult for the sake of it. She referred to a post made by Sam earlier on my wall about her experiences of having to walk up 10 flights of stairs with a suitcase. The post stated that it was ok for some people to do that but not everybody could. This post has caused some controvecy but Im not entirely sure as to why?
Helen again was the first to raise the concerns in relation to this post, claiming Liz was making unnecessary and offensive comments about Sam, which from the post, i couldn't see. Sam and Liz have not directly spoken and while I have later found that Sam did take offence to the post im wondering whether the idea that it was offensive was put into her head from outside sources or whether it was her interpretation of the situation, given that she and liz have not spoken and that it was another who has made the only comments on it, either way it is just another drain on my enthusiasm to go at all. Sam and Helen dropped out of Rome leaving the guest list at
Me
Theresa
Louise
Liz
Richard
Stephen
Hannah
Ellie
Helen and Sam have stated several reasons for not going, i personally believe that isolated these concerns are minor and shouldn't discourage them from coming, the problem I have is that they both flittered between excuses and their reasons for coming seemed to change everyday, this is just my perceiption and may not be how they felt and probably isn't. What got to me the most is Sam's decision to book a last minute holiday with Helen instead, while I have no problem with two sisters going away together (have fun ladies) i do have a problem with one holiday being sacrificed in order to make another possible. It seems such a waste, given that it was Sam's birthday we were celebrating and the fact it was supposed to be a sort of reunion weekend for the girls (this would be unaffected by the pressence of other people before anybody raises ths point). Without Sam the holiday didn't seem so appealing. This is how Hannah felt also, and decided if Sam wasn't going then neither was she so the guest list became
Me
Theresa
Louise
Liz
Richard
Stephen
so from 8 to 7 to 9 to 10 to 6, everybody still on board?
Since then there has been pressure put on sam to change her mind, so be it, it is not because i think Sam is silly for taking offence at what Liz said, im not taking Liz's side. Sam would have enjoyed Rome and to assume there would be more problems is creating agro where none need exist. It seemed an excuse not to come and not a reason. here is teh funny thing Helen and Sam, Liz offered to drop out so you two could come instead if she was the main reason you weren't going - didn't know that did you? Unfortunately a better offer had been placed on the table and we became second best. I realised at this point that I was being forced to chose between friends and that it was Sam and Helen putting me in this position, so i refused. I wouldn't ask another friend to choose between her friends so i won't do it. If Sam was going to come she would come if Liz was there or not, nothing I said at this point would make any difference so why should i offend Liz at this stage to achieve nothing.
Helen couldn't leave it alone, after I had decided to drop the whole thing, like i said nothing could be gained from any more discussions with sam and hoping she could come. I wrote a message saying those of you who want to come, welcome aboard those who don't its your loss. Helen questioned, why is it our loss? err r because you won't be coming to Rome with us so you'll miss out? I wrote this on her wall and decided sarcasm wasn't going to achieve anything so deleted it. She read the wall post from her email and wrote the above message in response.
And this is where we now stand. I know who im messing with and im clearly not phased by it. I do not have a problem with Sam or Liz and my feelings towards helen are irrelevant, not everybody is going to get along are they, would make life very dull if they did. I may have suggested that it was Helen who put the idea of a last minute holiday into sam's head, either way it makes no difference the idea was there, it made no difference in the long run who suggested it, a better offer was on the table and yet again I lost out. It may seem to you that im jealous that Helen gets Sam and I don't but that is a false perception based on assumptions about a person without really knowing them. How I interact with my friends is between me and them and is nobody elses business. I am disappointed that Sam won't be joining us, and of course Hannah and Ellie, it would have been a lot of fun! I am totally fed up of the mess that which has been caused over one post on facebook? Facebook should never be taken seriously, its a website, there are not inflections, expressions or body language, you can't assume a person's words are how you read them, you're missing out on vital verbal and non verbal communication signals that can change any phrase from good to bad and from bad to good. Helen does raise one good point in the midst of her poor grammar and bad spelling though, if i was any kind of friend I would be nicer to sam in one respect, I'd ignore Helen alltogether and let her have her misguided rant about the situation, responding to the message above will only lead to further confrontations and potential problems between me and Sam, I am a better friend to Sam than a lot she has had in the past and i will continue to be her freind whether she likes it or not.
Morals of the story:
never assume anything - it only gets you in trouble
don't judge people without knowing them and once you've gotten to know them only then judge them on their actions, words and decisions if you want to be judged in the same way by them.
Don't get involved in an argument/ discussion / conversation that doesn't involve you - mind your business
Don't take facebook as fact, would you assume wikipedia was accurate?
and lastly
never ever ever try to organise a group holiday - its a headache, one which can be avoided. October 17 A few new thingsPINKATHON, JAKS, WELSH AND CAKES
So this week saw the revival of my social life!! Lets not assume by that, that i don't have one its just its been a little stagnant lately! With the girls gone and dissertation in full swing the weekly trips into town be it Orange House and Flares or something else have become few and far between. The furthest I have ventured in many weeks has been the Rhyddings. According to the facebook group it is the centre of the universe but for a while at least i will have to disagree with them. Sam, Alun, Richard, Stephen and I all headed down to RAG's pinkathon held in Divas on monday night. Sam and I spent considerable time, switching tops, bags and so on until we had the perfect pink outfits which met with the approval of Mr Warr who became the king of all things pink that night. He decided that because he had gone to all the effort of buying a pink t shirt we (as girls) had to be more pink then he was! I think Alun developed a liking for pink (he wore if for his first day in the office today). It wasn't what I was expecting, there was a band which kept Richard happy and a few funny dance routines from Tom Stubbs, Sheryl and others. It was funny to watch!! Mark suggested we all go to Jaks, so around 10.30 Alun. Stephen, Sam and I all piled in a taxi and headed to jaks, armed with VIP bands from ENTS. They didn't pull their weight however, they didn't give us a discount on entry, or free drinks in fact they were pretty worthless! We did get a matching red band curtesy of Jaks which meant if we wanted to go down to SinCity we wouldn't have to pay again which is always good! It was nice to have a few drinks and a dance again, haven't done it in such a long time!! May have to repeat it on a much more regular basis.
I don't know how I managed to ignore RAG for so long, its been a huige society on campus far long then I have been at university so how did i not join it five years ago! I went from being Charities officer at HRSFC to having nothing to do with charities at University? That doesn't make sense to me at all. I suppose being such a big society it was quite daunting in the first year. I didn't join anything I don't think and then by the time you get into second and third year the routine is set! My time in the third and masters year was taken up with all things welsh and of course the BHF. I spent sunday afternoon/evening making pink fairy cakes for the Breast Cancer Awareness day cake sale. As far as I know we raised £160 which includes the money raised from all the hundreds of cakes we sold!! Its nice to have something to do that helps out other people and doesn't involve another language.
Speaking of another lanugae i've been learning welsh for a couple of weeks now. Alun says im doing good, but he's somewhat biased in his praise of me! I think im finding it easier then others in the class bbut at the same time there are others finding it easier than me and want us to be progressing faster then we are. I don't think the majority of the class agree with these few individuals!!! I have learnt a few phrases, beth ych enw chi (what is your name?) and I can say Danielle dw i in response. I think we have progressed far enough for 3 weeks if you ask me!!
Oh well best get back on with my dissertation! Wish me luck!
October 31 Halloween!! I love it!I have just written a review of the Gym Gym social for the Gym Gym blog but since like most things there are adventures, stories and goings on that shouldn't really be posted on official blogs I've decided an entry is warrented here as well.
Alun had a meeting to go to which meant I was left in peace to get ready. I started putting my make up on at 6 and since we weren't due to meet Liz until 6.45 I thought I had plenty of time. Please in future remind me not to have Charmed on the TV while Im trying to get ready for a night out, it really slows down the whole process. Anyway I finally left the house just after seven after trapsing up and down the staris four times forgetting, in order, Alun's costume, my phone, my devil stick and finally a change of shoes and the keys to get out of the house. Alun sat in the car watching the light in my room go off and on, on and off and thoroughly enjoying the choas.
We were supposed to pick Liz up from her house as I said at 6.45, she wasn't ready until 7.15 and even after that Alun decided to join us in our hectic lives and rip his cape as he put it on. We had to staple it together in the car which of course didn't last long and he was fiddling with it all night long. It wasn't the only costume crisis that we had. Eleri in her speech about the weekend switched from Welsh to English but nobody could tell because of her vampire teeth!!
There were two vampires last night, Eleri and Rhian. I thought Rhian looked more authentic but Eleri looked really cool too. There were a couple of devils including me. I wore my red Milan skirt and backless red jewelled top and completed the look with a devil stick and a face mask. I think I looked good, so did alun! Richard came along and I gave him the extra pair of devil horns I had bought in town and turned him into the Devil of Rock and Roll! He looked good too despite having come straight from Economics. He had that drained look about him, perfect for Halloween!! Liz looked good, a few key pieces like stripey tights and a bat hair band turned a black top and demin skirt into a really cool witches outfit. She should have won the costume prize because it wasn't a stereotypical look, unlike the rest of us.
We arrived at the Bryn-a-mor at 7.20 and Richard was sitting next to the Gym Gym, probably without really realising. He didn't really mix with the rest of them, although he is a member of the society. There were three distinct groups within one last night due to the friends of friends thing we all had going on. Richard decided though that he should hang out with the welsh posse more often, which is fine by me!! He's going to the Cardiff version of Ty Tawe tonight for a haloween party as an evil elf, partnered with a sadistic santa! An interesting idea but hope he has fun!
We had, thanks to Eleri, half price drinks! I love that girl (today anyway). She used to work there so employee bonus! We managed to get a double archers and lemonade, a pint of Carling and whatever soft drink Alun was drinking for £2.70. That is ridiculously cheap. I think Richard worked it out that it was 90p a pint! Bearing in mind how cheap the drinks were we managed, between about 12 of us to run up a tab of over £70! I think we should be very proud of ourselves!
There were some freaky events last night, starting with haunted hand dryers that turned on by themselves! It made Liz and I jump a number of times. On top of that Liz spotted or thought she had spotted a chainsaw yeilding frankinstein in Richard's half empty beer glass. I personnally couldn't see it and Im not sure Alun or Richard could either but Liz was impressed and that is all that matters. Alun scared some woman as he got out of the car and announced "I've just scared somebody and I wasn't even wearing my mask!" I think he should be proud of that as well. At the end of the night, after Richard caught his train and Liz, Alun and I got some food we came back to Liz's house. She only moved in there a couple of weeks ago and the house still has a funny smell. Her room is the equivilant of Donna's in our house and it doesn't smell. Alun announced it smells like every one of the other rooms Liz has lived in. On Halloween night the last thing you want to see is a black cat, the last thing Liz wanted was that same black cat in her house. It took three of us to get it out to the street. I tried to kick it out literrally and it ended up running up the stairs, it was obviously the opposite effect then the one I was going for.
I actually really enjoyed the Gym Gym social, I didn't think I was going to, I mean there were'nt that many of us who didn't speak welsh. Its the reason the Liz and I didn't go to Time/Envy, apart from the fact I hate time. Alun has convinced me that I should go to the gig in Aberystwyth because its the biggest Gym Gym event of the year and to top it off because im on the Committee it would be rather bad if I didn't. Im not sure how Im going to publicise it before or after wards. Alun, Delyth and I are heading down on Saturday afternoon, apparantly to watch the rugby and then the gig. I won't be able to get as many photos as I would probably like. Im not sure people like me taking as many photos as I would liike to but then how are people going to know what we've been up to if they can't see it for themselves. Im thinking of having a photo albulm scrap book made up so that at Freshers' fayre next year people can have a flick through it and see what we get up to. A gym gym publicity archive if you will.
Ok well I really have a lot of work to do, if im spending the weekend up in Aberystwyth Ive got to get on with my economics assignment, not to mention my presentation that I have to deliver on Thursday. Wish me luck.
April 29 girls, dissertations, graduations and food!!THREE WEEKS!! I've deprived you of my thoughts, feelings and truly inspirational insights into life, the universe and everything for that long! People im so so sorry, however did you cope! Ok enough of the ego trip. How is everybody?
Eeaster was OK, I mean it can't be bad when your at home and you have a large supply of chocolate can it. I spent my first night at home sleeping on the floor of Louise's room because my bed was covered in stuff, and I mean stuff, clothes, chairs, boxes, giant shark toys (approx four foot long). I didn't have the patience or enegry to try and sort it out so I just left it until the morning and decided to sleep on the floor. It was the lesser of two evils.
Anyway, I didn't go out much during the break, I tried really really hard to get my dissertation written, I conducted a couple of interviews in a very non conventional way, which of course Im not going to mention to m lecturer I did. What she doesn't know won't hurt her. I was planning to use, Louise Ellis and Alun so that the surnames of the respondents didn't match mine so it looked like a professional interview and not an interview of convenience.
Anyway now that i've come back to Uni my supervisor wants to see a draft of my dissertation and I don't have one, I haven't finished yet. I was up until last night avoiding doing it again, I just can't be bothered. Anyway for some reason last night I had a brain wave and it all just started to click. Its probably not the best analysis and its probably not going to get me the highest marks but its interpretive, subjective and gives me primary insights into the thoughts and feelings of my respondents. The problem is only having two respondents kind of makes it hard to do any real comparative analysis, i need more!
I did ask Kate if she would answer some questions, I might still ask her, maybe over the weekend. Hopefully her answers will fit in with what the other two have said and it won't be too hard to change some of the analysis.
I have seen the girls twice this week, we went to Cricketers on Monday, I wasn't going to go and then Hannah sent me a half rude text that made me cry, until I noticed that she called Alun Aluminium so I laughed then. She didn't mean to be nasty!! I stayed for about an hour and a half and then came back to campus after hearing about everybodies Easter hols, well Hannahs and Lisa's Donna wasn't there and I'd met up with Louisa on sunday at Cricketers. Louisa Lai also came with us, she has been accepted with an unconditional offer to ABERYSTWYTH university. Im so proud!! It means she finally gets a chance to have a life away from her parents and the Raven and the Royal Kitchen. It means she finally gets a chance to have a life!!!
I then went over to their house on tuesday for Chinese Takeaway, that was nice, got to speak to Donna again. The food was nice, i had to go round the back to get my coke, some hospitality girls!! I also found out that I graduate on Tuesday 18th July at 10am, or at least the ceremony starts at 10am!! its scary now there is a date!
April 06 cricketers,dogs, bitches and balloonsSo many things have happened in the past two weeks that I can't really put it all into one blog entry!! Theresa came down for a visit and has been here since sunday 26th March. We are both heading back to Cambridge on 9th April so thats two weeks she'll have been here, in my room, taking over my bed!! I have been trying to capture as much of these past two weeks on film and I really feel that Im achieving my goal of annoying everybody I come into contact with by clicking my damn camera in their faces several million times!! Yes!
Theresa, Louisa, Alun and I have spent an absurd amount of time in Cricketers this fortnight. We went down for a couple of drinkds on the first monday night after Theresa arrived, or was it food? I can't remember. Anway during one of our food visits we were greeted with Louisa's bright pink hair! She dyed it again, I think because with Kris not here to tell her she can't she jumped on the phrase "while the cats away". I wonder what He'll say when he gets back!!
We made a few friends at the pub too! I think they were only after one thing.. no not that thing, food! I made a great comment, Louisa called Alun and pimp or something like that and i just observed that he was sitting with three bitches and two dogs! I thought it was funny, even if nobody else did. We came back on sunday and had the lamb dinner (thats going to be three weeks in a row come sunday when we do it again!) and then we ventured back again in the evening and took part in the pub quiz. We thought we were doing great until we scored 29 / 60 and lost. We only wanted arsing knobchops to be announced accross the bar! Alun, the rest of the arsing knobchops won the picture round in JCs in the last week of term but because I forgot to write it at the top of the page they didn't read it out!
Theresa and I spent all of saturday 1st April blowing up balloons! There was a purpose I promise. We filled Alun's room completely with balloons, well it was April Fools day after all. We started on friday night, we sent Alun upstairs telling him 'we're going to clean up a little'. Its a plausable excuse i mean my room is really messy. We hid the balloons in the shower over night so that Mr Chivers wouldn't find out. We got woken up really early on saturday morning because Alun had to go to Cardiff and he couldn't find his car keys (which just for the record were in his jacket pocket all the time). We were in town just after 9.30 and back again by 11 and soon after that we began the challenge of blowing up 300+ balloons. We decided to sit in the corridor and throw them into Alun's room so that we weren't trapped by balloons when we were done. We had a few laughs along the say, but we had a few bruises and sor hands and I really thought I'd go crawy.
Alun loved it though, we put a couple of balloons on his door to cheer him up after his exam, a couple saying "alun we bought you a couple of balloons". He opened his door and "oh....my....god, oh....my....god!!" I really wanted to be standing in his room to take photos of his face as he saw them but it was not to be. I got some really great pictures afterwards as you can see!
March 19 Observations of a bitter mindToday Swansea saw its first prolonged warm and sunny day that as far as I can tell has lasted until now and shows no signs of disipating. I had planned to get up early and work on my essay which is due tomorrow at 3. I had every intention of getting up at 8.40, 10.30, 11.20 and 12.58 I got up then! If i had known what the weather was like outside prior to getting up at 1 in the afternoon I am pretty sure I would not have spent the morning in bed with the curtains drawn against it.
I wandered over to the library this afternoon in a paniced attempt to find at least a couple of books for the essay I believed would prove easy to write. I wandered out expecting to be hit by a blast of freezing Welsh air as had been the reality for the past few days but when it never came I was pleasantly suprised. I sat outside of one of the buildings on campus with my three rather old, probably not very useful books and decided I would read and makes notes in the warm summer air. I gave up after 20 minutes as it was just too nice outside to concentrate and I started people watching instead.
Would you like to know what I saw, well i want to tell you so you'll have to listen to me.
There was some sort of football related game going on outside of Kilvey involving six guys all in shorts and t shirts. I hate balls, I can't see them when they're in motion and it freaks me out. I have always wondered why at the first sign of summer do boys get their balls out. (Its a good thing you know what im taking about it).
 A couple of Alun's flat mates (all girls) made an appearance out on campus, dressed in the shortest of skirts i have seen in months. The summer months are always more fun in terms of clothes, the shorts get shorter and the skirts get more belt like as the days get hotter and the hormones fly.
Exercise.... why?? It seems that during the summer months students decide that its time to get into shape for guess what.. yep the summer months. They start swimming or running along the coast line. But I ask again why... by the time you get into shape the summer will be over and you'll go back to 1pm lay ins and chinese takeaways. It won't be long before the BBQs start coming out and students colonise the beach again. That part I must admit appeals to me but the exercise, no thanks i'll pass thanks. Although saying that I did ask Alun if he wanted to come swimming with me this morning. I miss swimming with the girls, we haven't been at all this year and that isn't good.
Ok wll as most people are probably aware by now I should be writing my essay, the work is going in but for some reaons the word count is going down!! Go figure. I am happy with the words taht I have already written, they say its quality over quantity but since i have until tomorrow to wirte it so i could really use some quantitiy about now!!
OK im going now, siarada i da ti nes mlaen!! and the best part is i know what that means!
March 10 Three years of history in one blog entry!
Went to another one of the Girls "parties" last night. It wasn't the usual crawl into bed, girl ends up on floor kind of part, oik Hannah did end up on the floor but that was just after 8pm so im pretty sure she wasn't drunk at the time!! In Hannah's defence she is demonstrating Jane Fonder excercises, it looks like she is giving birth or something more. Alun says it looks like somebody is missing from the photos to make them more realistic! Alun and his dirty mind!!
It was a really girly party, chocolate fountain, girly gossip and of course the explicit sex discussion, favourite positions, sinful secrets and blow jobs. You name it we discuseed it! We all had a laugh and it was soooo nice to get off of campus for a couple of hours. I was going stir crazy just being in one small area all the time. drives me nuts. We asked Alun to bring over the More magazine over to look athe the horoscopes as they seem to be the only thing keeping hannah going right now and he bought over the sex special pull out (disgusting boy what do you think we do at our parties hmmmm) Anyway as you can see Donna was quite engrossed in the mag for a while. It made the rounds and everybody had a good giggle, who has sex in a car wash and be fully clothed again by the time the wash finished. eww and i don't think so some how.
Anyway the party at the beginning was quiet, just the four of us, Hannah, Donna, Louisa and I. Lisa went home for 11 days in order to be closer to her cat or something. We talked a lot about her last night too. She has as little to do with us as she can and when she is with us she either clock watching or nicking everyboy else food and not contributing any of her own. Its beginning to wear on most of us now! She is decidedly no fun to be around and I know what sound harsh but its unfortunately true. Ok ok enough bitching time for something a little less nasty and a lot more fun!
The boys joined us at about 11.30 and Alun had to try the chocolate fountain, by these photos you'd never guess he likes chocolate. Bad taste there Alun?? Oh and what on earth is that on your hand??
Wardie: He asked me to amend my blog entry because he was confused by my comment about him and an Asti bottle, ok i admit Mr Extreme radio that it was written at some point past midnight and that it may have been a little cruel. We asked you to open the Asti bottle because traditionally it is a guys job. Wheever we had a bottle in Halls we would get one of the boys do it usually Phil or Greg. We almost destroyed Phil's room because of a asti cork! whoops!! We wanted somebody else to blame if the TV got a crack in it!
For some reason the photo albulms came out last ngiht. I managed to pursuade Donna to let me borrow hers and scan some of the photos in. Considering how nightmarish I am with my camera now im suprised how few photos I have fromo the first year. That is why I was so keen to have some of hers because I don't think I have got some of them and they tell a lot about who we are and who we were just two years ago its an amazing difference in some of us, for example Hannah has lost loads of weight and Sam had ginger hair! This photo was from our first night out! I remember because I hadn't got any proper goinig out tops, i never used to "go out" as it were before Uni. That is the only top i had that was remotely suitable. I haven't worn that in years! Mental note, must track it down.
Note to Theresa - FOUND IT!!
These are some more photos prior to a night out. I don't know why but very few nights out were captured on film. Nobody back then wanted the responsibility of carrying a camera with them!! I will happily take that challenge now. It seems strange really that photos have become more important. Sam used to want to capture everything on film but now I don't really know if she does or not. Anyway these are pre night out photos. I think we all look pretty good don't you!
I love that picture of me and the girls on my 19th Birthday, it was the first one I'd spent away from mum. I know it upset her a lot. We went to Orange House and time i believe. Well I know we ended up in time but I don't remember the route we took, no not because of alcohol consumption (I know what you were thinking) but because it was two years ago plus now. I know that shows my age but I quite like being 21 so there! I loved Louisa's red hair, it made such a statement. I remember her coming back from the Easter hols? knocking on my door and i was like, Hi Lou....Oh my god, wow!! She wanted to make an impact and by god did she achieve that!! We have very few photos of all of us and even less of us and Ben but this is a really nice one
Next we have the photos from the Christmas ball 2003 and 2005. We couldn't go in 2004 as nobody was in halls but Donna, Louisa Lai and I did go to the EBMS christmas ball which was really nice. I wonder if it would overload the blog entry to have those pics iin as well?? Nah I'll find them later and put them in here you can never have too many photos!
Both the SHoRes Christmas Balls were good fun, the first because it was all of us together. We even enjoyed the company of will and Sian for a while. Now I can't be in the same room as them let alone the sam house but that is a completely different story and not one you want to hear or I want to repeat so Im going to leave it ethre. Louisa looks please with herself doesn't she, well she may and i mean MAY have cause to. She and the other girls (Hannah and Donna) spent the evening convincing me and Alun that we liked each other. Alun tells me later that he already knew and was listening eagerly to any information that the girls were giving to him about me so he knew if the time was right to "make his move". Unfortunately for him, it wasnt and he crashed and burned on the dance floor! It was torture for the next few days I didn't know whether we had ruined our friendship that meant so much to me! Now look at us! The cropped picture is our first couple pic before we were a couple, awww bless us!
On Louisa's 24th Birthday it took her a whole night to drink one bottle of wine but it was great watching her enjoy herself. She didn't come out with us back then. She loved our floor three parties. I didn't know this then but apparantly the whole building knew about our parties, we were the party floor!! WOW if only they knew how bad our parties were later on in the year. We had two or three really good ones, like the night floor 9 came to join us and I got mumps the next day! wow thats a party favour for you!! We had to go up to floor nine and tell them, it wasn't a nice after party job!
The one with Tango in it was after I went home for the summer iin the first year, i had to go to addenbrookes really shortly afterthe exams so I missed about a month of uni life, the month where there is no work to be done! Doona's sister Tanya came down to stay, I don't know why I didn't give her my key she could have had her own room! Oh well I am pretty sure I would have offered it! I can't believe that Donna and Tanya are sisters, they loook nothing alike! I remember Tanya coming down in the summer again and she, Donna, Theresa and I went out into swansea. Tanya left us to go off with some boys she had met from Sibly the visit before and T, Donna and I spent hte night in Flares! We had a good night!
Note to Theresa - if you can find those pictures i'll put them in but I think they were all on your phone.
This photo was taken at 106. I can't believe im the only girl out of us lot who hasn't ever technically lived there. Im thre often enough but never had a room or a key. Its strange i feel so left out!! Only kidding I love bing on campus i get to be lazy!
I rmemeber that photo, Hannah looks good pregnant! She looked good pushing Louie's push chair when she came down to Cambridge for a couple of days in May! Its not fair! I look like i have a pillow shoved up my t shirt! Admittedly sam doesn't pull it off either but never mind! Its the fun that counts right!
Me as a cheerleader!! I have only worn full uniform twice. I am looking forward to the next time i actually get to do any cheering but there is some much intra society politics right now it doesn't look likely its going to be any time soon! Alun says he wants me to perform with the others at the society awards and I am looking forward to doing that but at the moment Emma Barlett is running for Women's officer, the coaches are practicing for a competition sometime and they're training up new girls. So who knows whats going on. Oh yeah and the birds of prey are getting on my nerves (another long complicated and un necessary story) I've just realised how bored we all look in that second picture, I was having fun, its only the second time I had performed and Donna and Louisa were watching!! I was so proud of me!
I forgot to put up the photos from the summer ball, so here they are. Alun says he enjoyed it, Sam stayed later then we did. We left about 10pm which is really early but we just weren't having any fun. Theresa had come down a day earlier then Mum, Dad and baby Louise just so she could come to the ball. We got ready which was the fun bit, Sam did Theresa's makeup (and no offense sam but T wasn't impressed she hates makeup)! Louisa looked really nice and Kris took the picture for us! We all invaded Hannah's room and Louisa, Theresa and I all ended up sleeping in the same bed. I enjoyed the rides, the chats and the small bit of dancing we did at the ball. I didn't enjoy the long queue for the ladies (and the comments of "how long does it take to go toilet!" Theresa and I were praised when we came out because we took about half the time as everybody else and there were two of us!! Yay go us!! Oh yeah and you couldn't get near the bar tent the queue was all the way around Abbey meadows i wish he'd had a few drinks before we left then we probably wouldhn't have cared! but we couldn't even get a coke! Oh the Oscars!!! I remember those! Hannah bought them after Valentines day form Tescos for 25p each. They did have things like sex bomb, and world greatest kisser on them but we soon fixed that. Mine is around soomewhere at home, I have freak magnet, bitchiest comments and I can't remember the third thing i was accused of. I wish they ahd found a few nice things to say about me! We spent an afternoon doing it in the kitchen it was really funny. This is Laura by the way, did i mention her earlier. She came to us from Colerado USA in January and stayed until mid May. She and Ben got very friendly and he really missed her when she went back home. It was really good having her around! I really need to fiind her email address again, see whats going on in her life and arrange to go visit! USA here i come!!
Alun is reading More, my fingers and wrists hurt from typing so much so I think we can officially call this entry done and about time too i hear you cry. yeah yeah i bet your life isn't exciting either! At least i have pictures!! These last two are of Ryan, i couldn't really leave him out now could I!
January 29 Man's best friend.We all went down to Cricketers tonight, our local pub or at least it will be for Alun, Ryan, Nick and Laura. Its been mine for a while.
We were discussing football, economics and rugby while we were there and our conversation drifted onto the six nations rugby. I asked Nick who he would be supporting in this saturday's game. (England are playing Wales). He said he wasn't prepared to play a popularity game and made the "here boy" gesture, to illustrate what we were up to. He got the attention of the canine patron of the pub. It was so funny and half the pub cracked up laughing.
I guess you had to be there. December 15 Shouldn't we be setting an example?Lets think for a second that i am a volunteer for the British Heart Foundation and last night we, the entire pool of staff and volunteers went out into wine street for our christmas party. Now that ive set the scene does it not strke any body as odd that we promote a healthy lifestyle, no binge drinking, leaner cuts of meat not overdoing it at christmas to ensure a healthy heart and long life and yet collectively we drank more, ate more and genuinely made more noise then the rest of wine street put together?!?!?
  The boss was sick twice before we even ate and then unsuprisingly didn't want to eat the food. Nobody else seemed to think the food was any good, i thought it was delicious and would have eaten more, but that would have seemed greedy.
 The boss has more cuts and bruises on her then ive ever seen on one person before, apparantly she fell off the toilet!
 Introduced Alun to the guy rumour has it im having an affair with, just because i text him to pass a message. He just looked at him, looked at me and said "but he's old!" It was really funny and Calvin, luckily saw the funny side too.
There is a guy at work who keeps chatting me up, much to my annoyance as much as Alun's. Guess who we ended up sitting next to, I could tell that Alun wanted to punch the guy and everybody kept a look out for sparks!!! Leroy aka leon was too busy chatting up any female in the bar to notice.
Louisa got into the spirit of things and had three drinks bought for her by three different men! Go Louisa!!
Calvin and Louisa....errr what no Calvin and Lisa sitting in a tree, i don't want to go into detail but we all know what they were up to, or would have been up to had lisa not drunk so much. The photos are great aren't they!!!
Im so looking forward to next time. I'd add photos but my camera is broke. I printed them all out for Lisa and Syb and now i can't access them. Im going to be so annoyed if my camera really is broken, its only a month old and i have put the battery and card back the right way!
December 08 I love Christmas!
We, the girls, throw a fantastic Christmas party, everybody has fun, everybody has a bit to drink and somebody normally ends up on their bottom on the floor, usually me! I love Christamas! Its one of those times of year when everybody has fun and relaxes just that litle bit more than usual (cough Donna cough cough).
Alun found an alcohol he likes, yay, go archers! I discovered that shots of the stuff are actually drinkable if not advisable and Ryan, well we all know Ryan likes his cider!
I have video evidence of Hannah and Donna doing the Okey Kokey! Its funny and im not handing it over - ever!! Although i think i may remember dancing to Saturday Night, shhhhh nobody noticed.
Alun and I were getting cuddly on the sofa, which nobody seemed to mind too much, in fact, Louisa was quite grateful, it meant she could get a comfy seat and not one of those skanky ones in the corner.
Louisa out did herself with food, mini pizzas, sausage rolls, duck rolls, crisps, chocolate, mince pies and the alcohol was flowing. When we throw a party nothing is left un noticed!
I always look forward to our parties and this was no exception. Im definately looking forward to the post examination destress party party.
Yay off to nurse my soar throat now, warm squash is a god send, who knew!
Merry Christmas everybody! or as the welsh would say Nadolig Llawen!
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